Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Life is not here for Sombody else to live

Alternate title: So what if you lack confidence, suck it up and get one with it.

There is a profusion of gen X's and Y's out there in blog land with anxiety and confidence issues. Nerds, geeks, dags, the overweight / underweight and generally people with issues.

Life is not here for Somebody else to live. This time, this place, your 'now' - it is yours.

Live it

Don't put barriers around yourself that are not there.

It is not for the beautiful people and all the other imaginary creations of the media out there. It is for the 12 year old Mexican kid playing soccer with his friends. It is for the retired Roman Soldier with some mundane task in his shop. It is for everyone who has ever been human and you have as much right to experience and be here and be you as anyone.

If you like him - tell him, ask him out for coffee. If you want to dance with her it won't happen if you stand there. You know what - you may fail. And the downside of that is???? Go out there and be audacious. There is nothing wrong with failure or being introverted or a bit of a dag or the kid who was bullied at school.

That said - If you have depression or you feel you have an anxiety disorder - go and get professional help. See your GP.

comments are open so long as nobody is nasty

16 comments:

Fusion said...

Why would anyone get nasty? This is a great post Stephen, good advice all around.

kimba said...

Are you talking to me?

I TOLD EVERYONE I WOULD GET HIS NUMBER WHEN I SAW HIM NEXT AND I HAVE BEEN STALKING HIM FOR A WEEK NOW WITH NO LUCK..ALRIGHT?!!!!!!

I swear.. Get off my freaking back already.. Sheesh..

x

unique_stephen said...

:-)

There is a little in there for all. No one particular person.

phishez said...

Hum. Great wrap up of what I've been missing in the blogoshpere while I've been working my fat arse off at the gym and lusting after my personal trainer.

Everybody is unhappy.

End of story.

xl said...

Excellent post, Stephen.

De Campo BC said...

You obviously have no idea how depressing it is to be a 12 year old Mexican soccer player.

unique_stephen said...

claro no.

Em said...

Yea... you're right.

Memphis Steve said...

I wish someone had been there to encourage me this way when I was dating, not that I can't use the advice now as well. But for now I wish someone would encourage "Girlie's" favorite boy to just go for it. All his friends do is make fun of him and make him feel worse. It's incredibly frustrating to watch. And painful to remember making the same mistakes.

When I come to Australia I most likely will not want to leave again. You need any .NET programmers who used to be C and Unix gurus? I'll need a job if I'm to stay, and now that Steph's couch is most probably off-limits I'll need it sooner rather than later.

unique_stephen said...

Em - Claro si
Steve - I run more of a mysql, perl, PHP house here.

Check out seek.com.au for programming positions.

fingers said...

I'll get right to it once The Olympic Games are over...

LauraDanielleDotN said...

I told her I was in love with her! I'm so happy I did...even though she hasn't mentioned it since...

But now I'm not hiding anything!

( . )( . ) said...

Hrmmmm..... I agree.

I have too much confidence... and say too much, and it gets me in trouble. You wouldnt think so from all the shit I plaster on my blog, but being too confident is a problem.

They should call it, confidism, and there should be a helpline and a website dedicated to it too.

Whos with me here?

Lana Banana said...

here, here!

but let's be honest, sometimes, a teensy-weensy bit of moping about is a little bit fun. and, well, if you're american, it's de rigueur. (i mean, have you seen the value of our dollar?)

hey, great blog.

unique_stephen said...

So long as someone got over their inertia I'm happy

unique_stephen said...

Oh, and g'day Laura